"We're taking it week by week," said Aschmutat.
Around the closely knit village of Ballston Spa, people are rallying to support the family.
Ralph Weaver, owner of the D-Line Pub in Ballston Spa, is putting up for raffle a signed football jersey by his son, NFL pro Anthony Weaver. Ron Manna, owner of Manna's restaurant also in the village, is doing the catering.
The family is known around town as being good friends and neighbors.
"Shane worked for me at Monaco's for years; he's just an all-around good person," said village mayor John Romano, who closed Monaco's Tavern last year.
The Whalens gathered last week to celebrate Cayden's fourth birthday with cake, ice cream and all the trimmings.
"We have no idea how much the benefit will raise, but my brother needs to know there's support out there," said Aschmutat. "That's how this family will pull through."
Tickets for the benefit buffet dinner are $12 for adults; $6 for kids and Seniors. Tickets can be purchased at the D-Line Pub, Manna's restaurant or by calling Kelley at 882-1971.