"They Live On" now fills that void, said Nugent, in a powerful way she never imagined it would.
"I'm getting so many emails, notes and phone calls that tell me this book made a huge difference for them. I think the greatest testimony is the repeat purchases; someone who bought one book and comes back and buys four more because they want to give it to a sister, cousin, parents," said Nugent. "A friend wrote me a note that said 'the time is right and the need is great,' and I think that really does sum it up."
Many baby boomers are going through the very process she did, right now. If she can help them make sense of the grief and healing process, even in a small way, that's what she hopes for.
She said her parents would have been proud of her.
"My parents were people who felt that if they could help, they would want to," said Nugent. "It was hard for them to watch me go through this at the time and I believe that my parents would be gratified that other people might get some support from reading their story."
Nugent isn't just waiting for people to notice her book on the shelves and pick it up. She's holding discussion groups once a month at Maple Wood Nursing Home in Ballston Spa where she reads from the book based on various themes and participants can describe their own experiences and how they related to what's in "They Live On." Her first group was around Christmas.
"There were about 10 people there and it becomes very obvious when we get together to talk about it, how similar the experiences are it's the cycle of loss that is not linear, it's circular, and we keep revolving through those," said Nugent.