Thomas Murphy, a professional MMA fighter who works with Sweethearts and Heroes, a non-profit organization aimed at stopping bullying, talks to Schalmont Middle School students Thursday, March 22.
continued He teaches kids it is important to surround themselves with people that care about them and will push them to be better people.
“I gave your kids some real powerful stuff that is going to help them,” he said.
Social alienation, around 6 percent of bullying, is one way someone can be bullied and he said girls more commonly use this method.
“Girls are really, really good at doing it,” he said. “Girls will go out of their way to exclude other girls to hurt them.”
Physical bullying only amounts to around 30 percent of bullying, but he said the number has actual gone down through school administrator efforts. Verbal bullying is the most common and accounts for around 46 percent of bullying. Indirect bullying accounts for the remaining 18 percent.
“Bullies just don’t hatch out of an egg, they’re created, they’re made,” he said, “they’re made through anger, they’re made through a lack of love, a lack of appreciation.”
Before forming the organization prior to an anti-bullying talk Murphy was asked to give, he said he didn’t realize how devastating bullying could be for a child.
He said he had been to presentations where “the most awful, heinous stories have been told” and he said those stories need to be told, because there are some students in each school feeling the same.
“We have to reach out to the other kids, the kids that can really do something about it, so that is why we tell a different story, tell a different message,” he said. “We want to reach all those other kids that really have the power to do something about it.”